time for ME

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What is this ’ME time’? Coming to a Nia class once or twice a week has been described as giving yourself ‘Me time’. I don’t actually like this saying. To me it sounds self-centred, even selfish. And like many of you, I have been conditioned to think ‘selfish’ means ‘bad’. Maybe there is another way to look at this word. I recently heard some advice: ‘Be selfish, look after yourself first, only you can make yourself happy, fundamentally. No-one else can, and if you are happy then you are a nicer person to be around.’  That really appealed to me.

Reminds me of the pre-flight safety speech where they tell you, in the event of an emergency, to put your oxygen mask on before you help your children. So many of us women, mothers, partners, wives put ourselves last, and then what happens –

resentment

even exhaustion.

And we all know, these are not healthy states of mind.

‘Time for ME’ means a time to stop doing the endless jobs, the mundane tasks, the worrying and the all-too-addictive thinking. In a one hour Nia class where there is relatively little interaction with others you are spending precious time with yourself, listening to your body, to the music, maybe listening to some thoughts, but really connecting with your self, with sensations of pleasure, being in the moment and ongoingly choosing how to move. Oh and connecting to what feels fun, joyous, expressive, even silly.

I actually find ‘time for ME’ while teaching a Nia class, believe it or not. Part of our training is to connect to joy and pleasure while we teach, thank you Debbie Rosas, Nia founder. Why else would I love it so much! (oh and Debbie is in London next week, let me know if you want to come to one of her masterclasses)

What do you get from Nia ‘ME time’? Post below in the comment box.

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  1. Erica Gee May 31, 2013 at 3:53 pm #

    I agree it’s not being selfish to want me time – it’s being self- ish, understanding what your ‘self’ needs so that you can honour that and then give all the things you want to others without resentment.
    Now that I’m living in Sussex there’s very little opportunity to do Nia which I miss dreadfully. But I notice that it never leaves me so when I’m listening to my Nia sounds on my ipod I have to move and it feels wonderful. I also have little insight moments where I make links with Nia things and my work and I share these with others, which keeps Nia alive for me until I can do it more.
    Thanks Michelle for your musings!

  2. Danyah Miller May 24, 2013 at 9:13 am #

    Hi Michele I have been thinking about this ‘giving to myself’ too and I reckon it is essential for all the reasons you describe above. It is good to be reminded isn’t it? I LOVE dancing and, although I haven’t been to Nia for a while, it definitely gives me so much when I join one of your classes. I feel invigorated and energised afterwards…and most importantly for me I don’t take life so seriously either. This has to be good for my bones!!